Pain of Changing 

You know sometimes in life we get stuck or let others around us hold us back when we want to move forwards. We don’t move forward because we believe what others around us tell us or we don’t listen to what our intuition is telling us to and we lack of self-belief.
When I look back on my life I have come across a lot of people who have what I call a negative mindset. They may say have a great day or go for it however they really don’t mean it.

They do and say the same things in their lives however not really believing what they are doing or saying, never moving forward or pursuing their dreams. They will think of all the reasons why not to do so.

If we say to ourselves we will go for it and achieve our dreams then also say it to others is a reflection of our positive mindset. Also speaking it out loud is bringing it into reality. We will take steps to achieve our dreams. 

So if we take that first step to move forward trusting your intuition then the universe will support us and we will start to gain momentum. We will be moving forwards towards our dreams whilst others will get left behind wondering what happened.   

So move forward, take the plunge and listen to yourself not others with a negative mindset who want to hold you back. 

Be your own pilot 

I hope everyone has a beautiful and meaningful day.

I have found that as I get older I realise that my journey has been a l over journey that I thought. It has taken many twists and turns, has had some highs and lows and been tough at times. Been the pilot of my journey and talking back control has been the hardest thing for me to do.

Even thinking about my journey and what I have been through makes me swell up with tears. What I would like to impart to others is that whatever you go through in life you can get through it. No matter how tough or hard you can get through by taking it one day at a time and remembering their is light at the end of your tough times.

I know that people feel alone and some even lost however I know that sharing your story helps you deal with your demons and helps others as well. I continue to be amazed by the support I get from people online and have even meet a few of these supporters in person as well. This helps me not feel so alone.

All of this has helped me and keeps me going in my low times and keeps my faith in the universe, life and people. 

So keep going, keep believing and keep sharing. Be the pilot of your journey and take charge.

Sky is the limit 

You know that sometimes in our lives we set limits on ourselves even in small ways. Quite often we are not even conscious or aware that we are doing this.  
For myself I know that recently I have been place a few limits on myself. I have been monitoring my data limit for my phone plan as I went over my limit last month. So cut back on my posts and videos posting on Facebook. 

Upon reflection today I realised I have been limiting myself by been concerned about my data limit instead of taking action to ensure that I don’t. Like buying data pack for example.  

I remembered that if we look up at the sky and realise it is endless then say to myself the Sky is the limit. And then realise since the sky is endless then so are my opportunities and solutions to my challenges.

How are you limiting yourself today?

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Melissa 😀


Hi Everyone,
I hope you all have a beautiful and meaningful day.

This week is World Continence Week. Whilst we have come a long way with this is still a bit of a taboo topic. Please watch my quick video on this as I share my story on this.




Hi Everyone,
I hope you have a beautiful and meaningful day.

Today I want to talk to you about addiction and how it can affect you. In my experience I have found that it can impact on all areas of your life. I started drinking alcohol at 15. Drinking heavily alone or with friends to escape life or my home life where environment was not the best.

I have had times in my life where I have not drunk and periods where I have drunk heavily. I am not going to sugarcoat it like a lot of people do I was an addict, addicted to alcohol and sugar as result also. 

Whilst now I have cut back on alcohol 🍺, I realised reflecting yesterday on aspects of my life that I still have addiction to alcohol. I have realised that it is robbing me of my focus which is what alcohol does. It impairs your ability to think clearly and straight. You begin to spiral downwards and get depressed. After all, alcohol is a depressant though it can stimulate you.

It has at times completely robbed my focus and ability to perform at my best. It suppressed all my problems and for moments blurred out all things that were going wrong in my life whether caused by me or not. It steals your money, your self worth and destroys friendships and even relationships. 

The thing with alcohol is that it can control you and you don’t even realise that it is doing so. It takes over your life and unless you have the ability to see this then you are going to get worse and never get better and quit drinking.  

This then affects other areas of your life. Addiction is like a disease that spreads like cancer. You combine this with other drugs or other stimulants. Coffee to stimulate you because you are depressed or hungover or both. Hence I now also am battling to cut back on coffee I drink. 

Looking back how I ever got through some days is a miracle. I am lucky I am even still here and grateful for that. We have to take responsibility for the things we have done in life. I know the next few weeks are going to be hard to quit my addictions however the pain of me not changing

is more the pain of staying addicted.

So if you are addicted to something like alcohol or coffee take some action to change this. Own your addiction, acknowledge it and then make the decision to be responsible for it and beat the addiction. Become unaddicted and take back control of your life. 

By taking control of your life alcohol, coffee and sugar no longer control you. Do what it takes to change. Then and only then can you be he best version of you.


Melissa 🙏

Melissa was Guest speaker at event 

Great to be guest speaker as part of panel discussion on Tuesday night at Out for Australia Foundation event last night. 
What a great panel with such great other speakers and great MC.

Was great for all of us to share some of our experiences and answer question around gender identity and also other issues around been transgender and gender fluid in and out of the workplace.


I hope everyone has a beautiful and meaningful day.
Today I want to talk to you about having balance in our lives. Sometimes we get out of balance because we push ourselves too hard and become over tired. Other times we let circumstances or situations get to us or we are simply a bit emotional for no reason or rhyme.

On these days if we take some time out at the end of the day to reflect about this we should be able to figure out why we are out of balance. 

We need take this time by ourselves so we can be at peace and in touch with ourselves. By doing this we can work out calmly why we are out of balance. Only then can we start to take the necessary step(s) to get back into balance.

So be a beautiful balanced person and always allow yourself some quiet time no matter how busy you are. And if you get out of balance take the time and step(s) to get back to balance.

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